About Me
Hii, I'm Dishika Mehta, a college student with dark academia aesthetic and a serious problem of escapism!
Hii, I'm Dishika Mehta, a college student with dark academia aesthetic and a serious problem of escapism!
A literary blog that takes you a journey through the books I've read and how they've left a lasting impact: an exuberant amalgamation of the learning experiences that they bring and how living vicariously can teach you so much about life- the undeniably complex yet beautiful adventure.
The Seven Husbands Of Evelyn Hugo is the story of Evelyn Hugo, one of the most morally questionable characters with such perplexing outlooks and pragmatic ways to choose when at crossroads in life.
"To be clear, there are things I regret. It's just...it's not really sordid things. I don't regret many of the lies I told or the people I hurt. I'm OK with the fact that sometimes doing the right thing gets ugly. And also, I have compassion for myself. I trust myself."
Sometimes, you need to be brutally honest to people you care about, when their actions are causing you mental, emotional or physical harm. Sometimes, they may not deserve it but never regret something when you've had your reasons and did the best you could with every thought and feeling that led up to it. It is also essential to note that there is a significant difference between being apologetic and regretful. Believe in yourself and your conscience.
"You know the key to impulsivity is believing you are invincible."
"When you're given an opportunity to change your life, be ready to do whatever it takes to make it happen. The world doesn't give you things, you take things."
"Some marriages aren't really that great. Some loves aren't all-encompassing. Sometimes you separate because you weren't good together to begin with. Sometimes divorce isn't an earth-shattering loss. Sometimes it's just two people waking up out of a fog."
Love is all about the rhythmic harmony of holding on and letting go. Knowing and accepting when something doesn't feel right or isn't enough despite all the efforts. Love can be something very complex and messy and yet very simple at the same time, but one thing that it should never be is difficult. Know when to fight for it and when to walk away from it.
"I wasn't heartbroken when Don left me. I simply felt my marriage had failed. And those are two very different things."
"I have spent my life knowing the importance of allowing people to tell you who they are instead of reducing them to labels."
The major characters in this trenchant story go to great lengths to conceal their true identity because of how unaccepting the world could be and how infelicitous and unrewarding it would be according the their chosen careers. They lose precious bonds due to this society induced obscurity over and over again. But we have the power to change this in real life by one simple act. Every time you think of saying something to someone regarding their appearance, choices or decisions, just ask yourself one simple question: Can they do something about it in the next five seconds? If not, refrain from saying it and just let everyone be their own authentic self.
It is so crucial to realize that a fulfilling life is more valuable that a mere materialistically accomplished life.
"It's always been fascinating to me how things can be simultaneously true and false, how people can be good and bad all in one, how someone can love you in a way that is beautifully selfless while serving themselves ruthlessly."
As someone so fond of lists and organizing, it's difficult to accept that we can't categorize everything into certain groups. But I think that a lot of us instinctively try to sort feelings, experiences and characteristics into binary opposites, and when it doesn't fit, our natural reaction is deeming it complicated. But that's the thing: "When you dig just the tiniest bit beneath the surface, everyone's life is original and nuanced and defies any easy definition."
"No one is just a victim or a victor. Everyone is somewhere in between. People who go around casting themselves as one or the other are not only kidding themselves, but they're also painfully unoriginal."
"Oh, I know the whole world prefers a woman who doesn't know her power, but I'm sick of that. I turned heads. Now, I take no pride in this. I didn't make my face. I didn't give myself this body. But I'm also not going to sit here and say," Aw shucks. People really thought I was pretty?" like some kind of prig."
This woman owned her world and she knew it. Wear what you feel like wearing. Apply the most dramatic sort of makeup if that's what makes you feel like yourself. People are always going to talk, there's no shutting them up. Give them something to talk about because nothing matters more than you being you.
"I think being yourself- your true, entire self- is always going to feel like you're swimming upstream."
Because people almost never care about getting it right. They'll tell whatever story they feel like weaving. They always have. They always will. That's exactly why it's up to you to write your own story, so that it overthrows and speaks louder than theirs.
“Isn't it awfully convenient,” Harry added, “that when men make the rules, the one thing that's looked down on the most is the one thing that would bear them the greatest threat? Imagine if every single woman on the planet wanted something in exchange when she gave up her body. You'd all be ruling the place. An armed populace. Only men like me would stand a chance against you. And that's the last thing those assholes want, a world run by people like you and me.”
There are uncountable things that I wanted to include in this post because this book, it makes one realize that the real world out there: it's vicious. It's a beautiful mesh of roses with thorns. You've just got to learn how to cherish the roses without getting pricked.